On Finding My Mom Tribe

When my daughter was born, I was the ripe, middle age of 30. It seems like an unusual age in the urban centres to have your first child nowadays. The girls I knew from high school had already long been married and they had already given birth to one, two or three children at that point. The new friends I had made in my life after college and starting my work life were all a bit older, very driven in their career focus like I was and single, some ghosted or we grew apart and catch up still occasionally. So I was an island. Or on an island. Alone in a sense, I wasn’t married yet to my daughter’s father and my family lived “back home”, a couple hours away.

I went to early learning years centres and joined a new moms group through the local hospital, but I didn’t quite mesh with the other women. I feel like at the time, I wasn’t fully ready to embrace the new Mom identify. I mean, I was and I wasn’t. I still wanted to be Kathryn, a kick-ass TV editor, rockstar party person and yet I became known as “Maeve’s Mom”, no one addressed me by my real name anymore or even knew anything about me other than I had a daughter born in July and we had the funky stroller car seat travel system and that broke me emotionally. It was odd that no one wanted to know what non-baby and child care rearing books I was reading or what my favourite TV shows were or even that I had a black belt in karate, I wasn’t ready for a different identity. These other women seemed fully entrenched into motherhood and the idea of having coffee without the babies wasn’t high of their priority list. So I went home, I went online and started to make some new acquaintances.

It took awhile to navigate this new social media world, there were already cliques on Twitter (from Day 1 it seems!) and meet up groups were hit or miss, but eventually I found women a lot like me. Career oriented women who were awesomely devoted mothers who had lives, outside interests and similar struggles. While I still juggle a lot of balls and sometimes wear a few different hats and I have not yet mastered what my role is social media is, one thing is certain, I think I have found my tribe. My Mom Tribe, my circle of women who don’t judge me, who support me, who think I’m kind of cool, even when my husband does not. Women who lift me up when I am down, whether they realize it or not. Meeting most of them for the first time in person at Mom 2.0 was pretty nerve wracking. I walked into the Ritz after leaving an awesome media trip at Walt Disney World Resort kind of vulnerable – what if I was found out to be a total dork?

I’m delighted to say that I gained a few new friends and really connected with the ones I had already made. I feel lifted up, invigorated, like I belong and that I have cheerleaders behind me. It’s awesome.

This post contains affiliate links, meaning, at no additional cost to you, if you choose to purchase it, I will receive a commission. It pays my bills 😉

9 Comments

  1. Sara

    May 22, 2017 at 12:52 am

    Love this!! I had a similar experience as a new mom- yes, I was a mom, but I was also other “things”…it was hard to find women like me, who celebrated being a mom, but who also welcomed a break, and were driven by their career, along with their love for their family. No judgement for those who look at it differently, but it’s so important to connect with and have support from women who “get it.” And, I never realized what amazing women I would meet online, and from a result of shifting my work to an online world. So happy to have met you!!

    1. kathrynanywhere

      May 22, 2017 at 10:05 pm

      And I’m so thrilled to have met you! Yay for shifting work “online” 😉

  2. Mom 2.017: The Recaps - Mom 2.0 Summit | Moms + Marketers + Media

    May 22, 2017 at 6:17 pm

    […] On Finding My Mom Tribe by Kathryn at Kathryn Anywhere […]

  3. online business ideas

    June 1, 2017 at 8:59 am

    Does your site have a contact page? I’m having trouble locating it but, I’d like to shoot you an email. I’ve got some ideas for your blog you might be interested in hearing. Either way, great website and I look forward to seeing it expand over time.

    1. kathrynanywhere

      June 1, 2017 at 11:00 am

      You can send me a message through here:
      http://kathrynanywhere.com/about-me/
      Thanks!!!

  4. Jennifer

    June 2, 2017 at 1:28 am

    It’s so good that you found your “Mom Tribe” because I believe every mother needs a friend or group of friends she can count on for support. Motherhood can be challenging at times and it’s a good feeling to know you can count on a friend who truly understands. I think it’s good you had your first baby in your 30s. If I could change the age I started having children, I think I would have waited until I was 28.

    1. kathrynanywhere

      June 2, 2017 at 9:02 am

      Thanks Jennifer, you are so right!
      Have a great day!

  5. Linda Manns Linneman

    July 31, 2017 at 10:20 am

    It is so nice and so important to have friends like this. I really enjoyed your article and understand where you were coming from. Thank you so much. God Bless

Leave a Reply